I read an article by a man who had discussed a horrific break up of a relationship with his partner. He summed it up as, ‘she destroyed me’. He went on to talk about his discovery of the Hindu goddess ‘Kali’ and how she was supposed to embody both Creation and Destruction, an unusual aspect for a deity. He also talked about the idea behind karma that a person is born into life to learn lessons. He then went on to say that he may have been destroyed in the ending of that relationship, but something new had been born of it. In concluding he said he had found a new self and that now, he understood things differently.

I by no means want to belittle, justify or down-play what she went through, but your friend, though she may feel parts of her or her whole being may have been destroyed at the end of the relationship, but clearly that experience has created something else, something more powerful and stronger. She understands love and she has continued on. I think she’s clearly found a new self and she now values herself. She has my greatest respect.